So sorry to see you join us here @Brandrew10 - I agree with @Cath62.
Definitely chat with your GP about a 2nd opinion and ask for the biopsy to be done asap. It is VERY important that you have faith (and a good relationship) with your surgeon - and right now, that 'faith' appears to be absent. I bet if they knew that THEY had a cancer in them, they wouldn't be waiting 3 months for another 'check up' without having anything done! Getting a biopsy is the only way to definitely confirm the diagnosis. grrrr
ILC is a tricky one as it doesn't always show as a lump, so well done on noticing the signs & getting checked out - ILC is more like 'strands' and is much more difficult to see than the other forms of breast cancer & is often missed in mammograms, specially if you have dense breast tissue (ask them about that too!)
We have a private ILC Group, if you'd like to join where you can raise any question, in private.
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/group/23-invasive-lobular-cancer-ilcIs your 'current' surgeon a specialised breast cancer surgeon - or are they just a 'General Surgeon' who does breast cancer surgery? There is a BIG difference. Are they local or did you go to Rockhampton? I believe you would have more choices and more likely to have a specialist breast cancer surgeon if you were able to go to a bigger city.
Below is a pamphlet on all the 'Patient Assist Travel' schemes for each state in Australia to assist you getting to appointments. xx You will be subsidised for both fuel and accommodation - but you will need your GP (and/or) specialist to sign the documents re every visit requiring (in Qld) 50k or more travel (each way) to get to your appointments/surgery.
Have you been assigned a
Breast Care Nurse yet? If not, You can jump onto the McGrath Foundation site & go to your area & see who is available ..... contact them & you should be able to hook up with one xx THEY should advocate for you regarding this and it will take some of the pressure off yourself. There is one in Emerald, but she is only there on a Wed. There is one in Rockhampton, who is there, Mon-Thurs.
https://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/get-support/find-a-nurse/We also have a group for those living in regional or remote areas, where we share tips too.
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/group/28-living-in-regional-rural-and-remote-areastake care - take lots of deep breaths. With Christmas approaching, things will be getting hectic everywhere. My own breast cancer story started in Oct with a 'discrepancy' identified by my GP (after clear Mammogram just months earlier) - then I had another Mammogram and ultrasound that suggested I have a biopsy which wasn't done til after Boxing Day - and I got my ILC diagnosis on Jan 5 ..... but all the surgeons were still on Xmas Holidays. I was lucky to see a really good one in Sydney & had my surgery 2 days later, in Mid Jan.
If you feel a tad overwhelmed, on Monday, give out helpline a call on 1800 500 258 (Mon-Fri, 9-5) to have a private chat re your concerns. xx.
Take care