Future thoughts - when to start trying for a baby
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JoeyLiz
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hi ladies,
before being diagnosed we were about 2 months away from starting to try for baby no. 2. Seeing all my close friends and mums groups putting up photos of bubs or announcing their pregnant again has made me sad that we can’t
i know it’s best to concentrate on my health etc and am still only at chemo stage so still a long way to go treatment wise (surgery May, radiation June) but i was wondering if anyone has gone onto have a baby and when they were given the go ahead?
i am on Zoledex in a hope to save my ovaries from the chemo and we managed to freeze 3 embryos so that’s something
before being diagnosed we were about 2 months away from starting to try for baby no. 2. Seeing all my close friends and mums groups putting up photos of bubs or announcing their pregnant again has made me sad that we can’t
i know it’s best to concentrate on my health etc and am still only at chemo stage so still a long way to go treatment wise (surgery May, radiation June) but i was wondering if anyone has gone onto have a baby and when they were given the go ahead?
i am on Zoledex in a hope to save my ovaries from the chemo and we managed to freeze 3 embryos so that’s something
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Hi @JoeyLiz, I can't say that I have persanal experience, I was 49 when I was diagnosed almost 3 years ago. However, I'm a midwife, and I have looked after a couple of women over the years who have had babies after bc. I didn't fully comprehend, or understand the significance, at the time. One in particular, I recall, was breastfeeding from her unaffected breast on discharge, if you're keen to be able to manage that, though I don't know how that went long term.
I do have a friend who was unable to breastfeed from one side for a completely different reason, but successfully breastfed 3 children for over 12 months. Again, no pressure intended, just letting you know it csn be done if you want
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@lrb_03 thanks for that info, I had heard 1 sided breastfeeding works so good to know. I managed 6 months of breastfeeding last time but was very glad to stop, it wasn’t pleasant for me as my girl had issues and I had to pump and top up and it was exhausting! But glad I did do it for at least some time and would be keen to try it again
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My take is that important as breastfeeding is, the most important thing is that you enjoy your baby, and if breastfeeding is stopping that, maybe it's time to rethink. Will always be happy to answer any questions you have around it ☺1
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I know that your question is also about safety of getting pregnant and I can't give you any advice on that but breastfeeding... don't ever let people, or yourself, beat you up about it. I did feed all of my kids for awhile but it was a nightmare each time. For the first, no-one could get him to latch on so it was pumping all the way; the second, we fought each time and didn't get to relax with each other until her first bottle; the third would fall asleep each time as she relaxed too much. I know breast is best, but only when it works - when it doesn't, it's worst.
Wishing you the best for baby no 2 @JoeyLiz - whenever you're given the go ahead.2 -
Absolutely agree with what you've both said!! As I said earlier, if breastfeeding is interfering with your enjoying your baby, change to formula, no guilt1
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Why don't you ask for a referal to obstetrician/gyno that way you can dicuss your plans and see whats required for after treatment, and how long etc im seeing a gyno while on chemo but i don't want any more babies I've had 6 she told me not everyones ovaries shut down hence i keep getting told don't get pregnant while on chemo ,but i can't have birth control either1
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@JoeyLiz
my bosses wife had BC in 2012 they now have a very healthy active 2yr 6mth old ....
have you joined the Young womens group on here ?1 -
@SoldierCrab oh wow that’s encouraging thanks, yes I’m in that group but it doesn’t seem very active0
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An acquaintance of mine also had a healthy baby after breast cancer treatment. As suggested, a referral to a specialist with some experience in this area may help too.2
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@Afraser out of curiosity do you know if your friends cancer was er/pr+?? Ta!!0
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So sorry, no I don't know and we are now long out of touch. Best wishes.0
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my bosses wife had one 2 yrs after her treatment finished she is now a healthy 4yr1
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Thank you! @SoldierCrab1
