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Hello,

I have only been part of this community since late March, so this is the only format I with which I am familiar. I don't know if it is better or worse than it was in the past, but I have always believed that the site was here for the voices of all the BC community. For us to share our experiences, feelings and fears and to offer support and friendship to others.

To have a post deleted because of some arbitrary decision from admin leading to someone who both needs and offers support abandoning the site, seems so unfair.

I am so sorry you feel this way Robyn. Perhaps you aren't even logging in anymore, so won't see the comments from those who support you, but in case you are out there, we are sad to see you go and hope you reconsider.

Hugs

San-Dee

The "We" you refer to are actually made up of disparate people (and not only women) who have a very wide range of views, so perhaps it is not appropriate for any one person to speak for the whole group. It is understandable that because the website is owned and run by BCNA, it therefore needs to be monitored by "admin", and may at times need fine tuning or even input. Nothing stays the same, and the blog is no exception.

As for knowing our place on this blog, I assume I have the same place as everyone else: a guest of BCNA.

Good morning everyone I actually missed the post that has been deleted. This site is for everyone, if I see things I don't like I scroll down and ignore. We all need to respect each other, this site has helped me to express my feelings and get support from people who I have never met but understand.

Thank you Robyn you were one of the first people who connected with me when I first joined, I believe we all have the right to express how we feel.

I did notice at one stage I had to scroll down through several admin featured posts to get to the actual forum posted ones and it was like that for a few days. Thanks for bringing it to admins attention as it was a little annoying when it stayed for too long. There is no need to get aggressive and fight with admin on here though. Save the fight for the cancer treatments. We all have our ups and downs. Actually there seems to be more down that up at times and we need this forum to get our downs turned into ups by fellow forum members. Robyn, perhaps deleting the entire thread was an easier edit than just removing one heated post? I am not up on the way this site is set up, but it could have just been something like that and try not to take it to heart too much.

Well said, Michelle. We do appreciate that staff are putting in their best effort to help the site run smoothly but I hope that they can listen to what is being said here.

I can see that already changes have been made to the Featured Posts but respect needs to be given to people like Robyn who have given so much support to others over the years. We may not be trained in IT or counseling skills but we know what it is like to have your world tipped upside down by bc.

Deanne xxx

Hi Robyn

You were one of the first women to reach out to me when I was first diagnosed. I can't tell you just how much your kind words of support and encouragement were to me. Thank you so much. Your positive attitude really made me feel that I could get through treatment at a time when I was so scared and anxious and full of self doubt. From reading the above I feel that you are so hurt, and I wish I could take that hurt away for you. You have so much to give and we really need you but I understand how you are feeling. I understand your disappointment but I really hope that after a little while maybe you will find your way back to us so we can continue to support one another.

Thank you for everything. I really hope you continue on this forum or if that is not possible we will see you again in the future.

Sending hugs

Nadine

Robyn has been a source of real support for many, many women on this site for years.  It would be too sad if she was driven to leave the site by misunderstandings or egos in admin.

Women with breast cancer share a special bond with each other that even their families cannot fully share. They really don't need or want to be introduced to staff, no matter how well-meaning or well-intentioned.

Lynne Swinburne started this site to enable them to communicate directly with each other on a one to one basis.  It has worked unbelievably well and the support it provides defies description. It changes lives.

We honestly don't need statistics or comperes and never have done in the past.  Please admin, just keep the wheels oiled and this wonderful site going from behind the scenes.  We do appreciate you and your efforts!

But we can't afford to lose wonderful pink sisters like Robyn.

xx Michelle

Oh...I noted that they listened and seem to have featured blogs now like you were talking about. I am sorry it was deleted. I feel your post was respectful and therefore should not be removed.

Thank you but no thankyou ! How can we complain about something that someone is doing if we don't use their name? Things like this never change,because the people that make the final decisions are not a real part of the blog.We don't tell admin how to run things and we shouldn't be told how to do things either.Cheers.Robyn

Hi Robyn. Your post was not deleted because of your comments or because you disagreed with us. It was deleted because it quickly moved from constructive criticism to inappropriate comments and personal attacks. This is a moderated community and we expect members to follow the network posting guidelines. If you would like to talk more about it, please feel free to send me a private message or give us a call.