That's a dreadful, but all too common story @arpie. My GP took three visits over three months before I insisted on an ultrasound. Later diagnosis leads to a poorer prognosis and your uke player's hubbies friend is one more dreadful story.
My question to @BCNA is always, why is public awareness that men can get this disease too, so low? I know they have done much for guys, but they must take some of the blame, as the nation's preeminent bc charity, for not bushing breast cancer as a genderless disease. Studies vary, but less than 50% of the general population are aware of the possibility. I know we are only one percent of total diagnoses, but when you are in that group, your dilemmas are as great as those of your sisters in the same boat.