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Am I dying and no one has told me?

Sam09
Sam09 Member Posts: 149
Hi lovely ladies,
I can almost feel it "AH a post from the interesting Sam 09" but yet again I need some advice please? I have spent a sleepless night last night with so many pains I would not know where to start! 2 weeks out from the news my liver mets had shrunk away then the news sorry we found mets in your spine in numerous places, my feeling wonderful suddenly started to diminish. From the moment I lay on the MRI table and had a backache to now I have felt lousy. I always feel so good and do not DO SICK AT ALL and never have however..... if I am not awake all night with the horrible buring perjeta itch attacking me then its the 
 pain throbbing in my spine feeling dizzy sometimes and I hope to God it is the stress and I have constant tightness and pain in my stomach yet the MRI revealed nothing else in my abdomen. Oh now its nausea too a few times a day and 2 days ago I was sitting on my steps on the phone and I stood up and my left knee went strange and I could not walk on it and still now am having trouble. I thought perhaps I had jarred it doing a weights session without knowing however this morning upon rising the right knee felt strange almost asleep and felt swollen a little. PANIC!!!!!  I am to say understating I am scared stiff. How could I feel so good and then find out some news and suddenly in pain and feel so horrible. I have been told well its good your liver mets have shrunk and do not worry people live for years and years with bone mets.But now I feel horrible....
But is it anywhere else ,is this not the question we all wonder,as from what I see we go along to our oncs and they say how do you feel you say good then its treatment off home until the day you say I have a problem!!!!!  I have this horrible feeling because I am so intune with my body this is it!!!!  and perhaps I am on my way out. I feel so angry..... is this what I got for looking after myself so much caring about nuturing my body in and out. Hail to fat people for what I can see I should have had that cheesecake I would have liked to have or eaten out occasionally or lay on the beach instead of running and gyming it perhaps perhaps.
Or the question is ladies.... am I dying or am I living this disease and my good feeling of health is gone?
  Either way I cannot go on like this.... I do not want to do sick and never have... this is not fun life if I cannot run jump be active and exercise  thenI am not me..... ah the tears are falling. How I wish!!!!!!!!!!!  Yes feel free to dong me on the head I am sure you all want too!  I totally get it because I do too!!!!!!

Comments

  • jena
    jena Member Posts: 81
    Hi @Sam09. I'm so sorry to read of your pain.  

    I was also very suddenly pulled up by bone mets.  I'd been experiencing inexplicable back pain for a while.   Not long after I was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer, the pain levels sky rocketed. I've had three radiotherapy treatments that have helped enormously with the pain. I now have a micro-fracture in my left hip just as the last treatment was starting to work.
  • June1952
    June1952 Member Posts: 1,818
    Hey @Sam09
    Listen to @iserbrown's words of wisdom.  Stressing is not helping you and we all know it is hard not to stress and none of us like to feel as though our bodies have let us down even though we have taken good care of them over our lifetime but it has happened and we all have to make the best of it however we can.
    I too have said if I was a dog someone would have me put down but we get over that feeling somehow.
    Keep talking here as we all care about each other.
    Sending you a big hug   Summer  :-)
  • iserbrown
    iserbrown Member Posts: 5,543
    Sam everyone is looking out for each other!  Hope you are feeling better as the day goes on!  Take care xx
  • Sam09
    Sam09 Member Posts: 149
    As usual you guys always never fail to make me feel better. I guess being super tired makes the mind race. I also think somehow because I do not look sick or act sick no one in the world    family or not ever asks how I am. I think sometimes I want to scream out loud hey I'm not the same and I'm not ok
  • iserbrown
    iserbrown Member Posts: 5,543

    Sam09 said:

    As usual you guys always never fail to make me feel better. I guess being super tired makes the mind race. I also think somehow because I do not look sick or act sick no one in the world    family or not ever asks how I am. I think sometimes I want to scream out loud hey I'm not the same and I'm not ok

    You're not alone!  That's what we are here for!  We all feel that at times, family, friends, they are oblivious and it makes us upset but if you get cranky with them it doesn't solve the problem!  It's what you call a shit, bloody, bugger, bastard of a so and so, along with many more swear words..............

    Take care 
  • iserbrown
    iserbrown Member Posts: 5,543
  • Sam09
    Sam09 Member Posts: 149
     :) 
  • Brenda5
    Brenda5 Member Posts: 2,423
    Hey Sam, we are all dying a little bit each day as that is what makes us mortal. Sometimes it is sped up, sometimes it gets slowed down and sometimes in horrific accidents it just gets stopped altogether. Having mets just means you are a high maintenance girl now and there are some extra benefits you can get being on palliative care so look in to those. Its a bummer when you can't sleep but you feel like you could for 1000 years. I know that feeling. What is your mattress like? I got one of those plush pillow top mattress covers (not cheap) and it has been pretty good. Well, better than nothing. I hope your treatment of pain gets under control. Sometimes it takes a little bit of trial and error to find out just which one suits your body, or as in my dads case, a combination of a few of them. Get on to that doctor and keep on asking for better. I am a great believer in the power of vitamin C too and make sure you take them every day. Hugz <3