well 22/12/2016 is a day I'm not going to forget in a hurry. My partner and I where both called back for checks on 19/12 same day at breast screen. Sitting quietly in waiting room together and going thru all the follow ups, more scans and biopsy was a wee bit scary. Toni had hers all finished and all good to go then it was my turn. I was the last one in the waiting room feeling a little lost. Had my biopsy and set to go. The next 3 days couldn't come quick enough to get the results. Toni was first and phew all clear so tag team and she had to race back to our business and I headed in for my results. I'm only 48 all should be fine, hmm well I'm sorry Nadine but your results show you have breast cancer. Merry f*##ing Christmas. I have never felt so overwhelmed and scared at the same time. The staff at breast screen where fantastic and the whirlwind started of drs appointments etc. I will be seeing my surgeon on Thursday and trying to take this one step at a time. Trying to stay positive is hard but I'm getting there. Having support is the best and reading other stories has helped me settle my mind.

Welcome @Nads . How awful for you. Yes the beginning is such a whirlwind and the fears are just awful. I don't think I slept for weeks. Once you see the surgeon the planning begins. Hope all goes well for you and we are here to listen, help and do anything we can. Kath.

Hi NadsBC is not the place you want to be but this is a helpful site with lots of people happy to share their experiences. Most of us find the waiting the worst, it's a bit easier when we know what we are facing and what our medical advisers are proposing. One step at a time is a very good approach, you can waste a lot of energy worrying and planning about things that don't happen, and conserving your energy for the next step is an important strategy for getting through it all! Best wishes for your appointment on Thursday.

Hello Nads, welcome to the forum, so sorry for your news. Nothing can quite prepare us for that can it. You will find a huge amount of support and information here. The thing is, we have all been where you are and we get it. We are here to listen when you need to vent or have questions. You are right - it does feel like a whirlwind at first and there is so much to take in.keep a notebook and jot down all the questions you think of (there are NO stupid questions

Sorry, using my iPhone and lost half of my post (again ....)It's easy to forget to ask something during the appointment with so much information coming at you! You will feel more in control after Thursday when you'll have a better understanding of your type of cancer and initial treatment plan.Many of our ladies will have had similar treatment and will be happy to share their experiences with you.I hope the next couple of days goes quickly for you. All the best for Thursday, let us know how you go. We are all here for you. Jane x

It sounds like you're coping really well! Awesome! Have you got your hands on the My Journey Kit? If not, it's a really worthwhile free resource BCNA will send out to you if you'd like it. :heart:

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Hopes_and_Dream
Member
9 years ago
Sorry Nads, lost half of my post!
I feel for your partner, I know what my husband went through. I coped pretty well but he really struggled. I gave him the booklet for partners which came in the My Journey kit and he also spoke with a BCNA counsellor which helped.
The thing is they can't fix this for us but they need to understand that they are so important in helping us get through everything which will be thrown our way!
Good luck with your next ultrasound - hope the next week goes quickly for you. Wishing you and your partner all the best and sending a hug to you both. Jane x
Hopes_and_Dream
Member
9 years ago
Hi Nads, so glad your appointment went well and you are happy with your surgeon. Did you decide on what surgery you are having? Every little bit of information helps, gives us a little more peace of mind and control. And so important to remember all those positives
Chorsell
Member
9 years ago
Hi there - waiting and not knowing is the pits - once you have a plan of attack at least you have something tangible to focus on.

There is so many unknowns and so many variables and you feel like your head is racing - it sucks but it does settle eventually.

Make lots of notes and ask lots of questions - and the ladies here are always great support and provide really practical advice. Just know that you are not alone - there is usually someone online to talk to - this site was my safe place in the beginning and so very reassuring.

All the best

Chris
Nads
Member
9 years ago
Met with surgeon today and he is lovely...booked for Friday 13th lol lots of positive news which has settled my mind just a bit. But geez I have to have ultrasound tomorrow on other boob just to be sure and a few other things then make an appointment asap to have my merina removed. If only I knew about the hormone issues I would never have had it put in.. anyhow my mind is clearer with what is happening next so I can digest this new info. I seem to be handling this better than my partner st the moment...it's hard when you can't control what is happening and she can't nut the problem out and fix it for me like she dose with everything else
Ne
Member
9 years ago
Completely get the shock when you are diagnosed at a younger age. Mine was two years ago at age 39, completely unexpected. My profile shows my story summary if you would like to have a read. In short, very aggressive, 3 tumors, required mastectomy, spread to lymphnodes etc... Just want to say I am out the other end and recovering well after 7 surgeries in 18 months. I never thought I would survive. I used to be a very anxious and scared about every little thing kind of person. You are starting out your journey with this disease in the right place. Trust in your team of surgeons, nurses and carers and come here to ask questions. You are in the right place and there are amazing men and women on this site to help you. Remember to take it one day at a time. this is a marathon not a sprint and you will soon get your pace. Big virtual hug x
Share
Member
9 years ago
Hi @Nads, yep, you are right - what a b**ch this thing called bc is. So sorry about your diagnosis.
Am sure you have heard so many stories - everybody has one - and advice but you will find your kit is really helpful as is the online forum and the wonderful admin staff on the site.
Although I am a long time bc "survivor" (not keen on the word but sometimes that's what it takes), I have only been on the forum since October and have found it a place to vent, release your frustrations or just for information or to reach out to others who know what you are feeling (and there will be a myriad of them !).
I agree, work is a great distraction and keeps you feeling as though you have some control in what seems to be your life spiralling out of control.
Thinking of you today for your appointment with your surgeon.
Best wishes, Sheryl xxx
Mima
Member
9 years ago
See you found other thread
Very new to this site still finding my way round it
See comoments there
Thanks Inkpetal
InkPetal
Member
9 years ago
Hi @Mima :heart:
I think we all had our moment, whether it was something that immediately crushed us or something we denied for months until facing it. It's like we go through the stages of grief for ourselves. How are you going?
Mima
Member
9 years ago
Hi, I've been newly diagnosed on 20/12 too.
am feeling very overwhelmed too.
my head is spinning
See the surgeon on Saturday
part of me wants to get it over as quick as possible and part of me wants to forget it ever happened.
Vivianna
Member
9 years ago
Oh I am so sorry! I know exactly how you feel having only gotten my diagnosis on the 23/12/16. I wandered around in a state of shock for the next week replaying that conversation over and over. I know it doesn't seem like it now but the fuzzyness/shock/anger/despair doesn't last forever, I send to you my thoughts and prayers for both you and your partner. It sounds totally cliche but I really do focus on one day at a time (otherwise id be catatonic